We are all aware of the influence and contribution the society’s morals and values have in our upbringing and growth as an individual. We have been taught & expected to act and behave on the account of certain unseen rules and propositions that our society expects us to follow. While minority of us might comply with all those rules, the majority have always had issues with these dogmas. We always seek to find some escape from these rules so as to we get what we want while maintaining the peace and tranquility with other members of our clan.
The Tyranny of Our Upbringing
I always used to wonder as to why there is always a conflict in the thoughts and deeds of our so called conventional society morals and much more outgoing youth or the modern generation. One big secret that I found out while going through our history was that over the years Means and Instrumentalities have changed; but motives and ends have remained the same.
We are highly mistaken if we think that our parents or grandparents or grand grand parents did not have any conflicts with these social invisible rules presented at their time. And it’s more than a mistake if we think that all those elderly figures, who talk too much about “What would society think?” chant, themselves followed all those constraints and gave up easily in all their conflicts. Of course the intensity of reformation has changed but the mutual conflicts remain the same.
Disclaimer – All these are just ideas. They are not meant to hurt anyone’s feelings or sentiments. These are purely based on the historical evolution that mankind has gone through. So before anyone judges me, kindly have an objective view of the whole discussion. I am sure you will get my point.
Let’s unravel 5 basic Society rules and look out as to Why they became a part of human civilization?
1. The Law of Competition
We start with this as first because this is the main invisible rule that all of us are taught as children. Whether its academics, sports, dance or any form of art our parents have always instilled a feeling of competition with all others who are playing the same game as we do. Those who fail in a certain Competition are given hard eyes by the society and those who win get all the fame and praises. Until and unless something really enlightening strikes us, most of us continue with this sense of competition throughout our lives whether its Relationships, Career, Sports or even the clothes we wear.
Competition is not only the life, it is the trade of life – peaceful when food abounds, violent when the mouths outrun the food. Animals eat one another without qualm; civilized men consume one another by due process of law. Co-operation is real, and increases with social development, but mostly because it is a tool and form competition; we co-operate in our group, our family, community, club, party, “race”, team or nation – in order to strengthen our group in its competition with other groups.
Competing groups have the qualities of competing individuals: Acquisitiveness, pugnacity, partisanship, pride. We are a sum of all these qualities because our blood remembers millenniums through which our forebears had to chase and fight and kill in order to survive, and had to eat to their gastric capacity for fear they should not soon capture another feast. That means Competition and Co-operation were the main means of survival since the humans started living in groups or clans. But today even though those groups have shrinked in size as our so called “FAMILIES”, those basic instincts of Competition and Survival will always exist in us.
2. Inequality towards those who are Financially weak and feeble
Inequality is not only natural and inborn; it grows with the complexity of civilization. Hereditary inequalities breed social and artificial inequalities; every invention or discovery is made or seized by the exceptional individual, and makes the strong stronger, the weak relatively weaker than before. Economic development specializes functions, differentiates abilities, and makes men unequally valuable to their group. If we knew our friends thoroughly we could select thirty percent of them whose combined ability would equal that of all the rest.
In the struggle for existence some individuals are better equipped than others to meet the tests of survival. Only the man who is below average in economic ability desires equality; those who are conscious of superior ability desire freedom; and in the end superior ability has its way. Utopias of equality are biologically doomed, and the best that a weak individual can hope for is an approximate equality of legal justice and educational opportunity. A society in which all potential abilities are allowed to develop and function will have survival advantage in the competition of groups.
3. Aversion to Inter caste and Inter racial marriages
There are some 7 billion people on the earth. “Human” species is composed of distinct races inherently different in physical structure, mental capacity, and qualities of character. E.g. It was said that one race, “The Aryans”, was by nature superior to all the rest. In early times, the rise, success, decline and fall of a civilization depended upon the inherent quality of the race.
The degeneration of a civilization is what the word itself indicates – A falling away from genus, stock, or race. People degenerated only in consequence of the various mixtures of blood which they underwent. The biggest reason for this was the intermarriage of the vigorous race with those whom it had conquered. Only those who were themselves the product of such enfeebling mixtures talked about the equality of races, or thought that “all men are brothers.” All strong characters and people are race conscious because their instincts know this reality and as a result averse to marriage outside their own racial group.
4. The Sex Funda
This definitely is the big one and has faced a lot of conflicts and rebellions throughout the recent history where our youth is becoming more sexually stimulated by the media and the Internet. Today the difficulty for a youth is to keep a check on his own sexual senses and caging his outgoing search for sexual perversions and fantasies.
A youth boiling with hormones will wonder why he should not give full freedom to his sexual desires; and if he is unchecked by custom, morals or laws, he may ruin his life before he matures sufficiently to understand that sex is a river of fire that must be banked and cooled by a hundred restraints if it is not to consume in chaos both the individual and the group. This is the instinct of our elders that creates conflicts with our feelings and outlook about sex.
5. Conservation vs. Revolution
History in large is the conflict of minorities; the majority applauds the victor and supplies the human material of a social experiment. Intellect is therefore a vital force in history, but it can also be a dissolvent and destructive power. Out of every hundred new ideas ninety-nine will probably be inferior to the traditional responses which they propose to replace.
So the conservative who resists change is as valuable as the radical who proposes it- perhaps as much valuable as roots are more vital than grafts. It is good that new ideas should be heard, for the sake of the few that can be used; but it is also good that new ideas should be compelled to go through the mill of objection, opposition, and contumely; this is the trial heat which innovations must survive before being allowed to enter the human race.
Human well-being is not a random phenomenon. It depends on many factors – ranging from genetics and neurobiology to sociology and economics. But, clearly, there are scientific truths to be known about how we can flourish in this world. Wherever we can have an impact on the well-being of others, questions of morality apply.
It is good that the old should resist the young, and that the young should prod the old; out of this tension, as out of the strife of the sexes and the classes, comes a creative tensile strength, a stimulated development, a secret and basic unity and movement of the whole.
If we have any children or any young siblings those who are going through this stage of conflicts, it’s important that we make them aware of their impersonal nature. Of course, our experience of all these conflicts is very intimate. When we have one, we sure don’t think about all these historical and instinctive details. But having a general idea of them in the back of our mind helps us to appreciate the Impersonal nature, dependence on Preceding causes and for sure it’s Permanence in coming times.
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